Tuesday, March 18, 2008

If Only There Were Two of Me... I'm sure we have all had that thought - wishing we had a clone or an extra set of hands. I'm especially feeling that pain today - figuring out how to juggle two kids - an infant (by definition - needy) and a little under the weather toddler (temporarily needy). It seems that I'm constantly having to choose, whose needs get met first. Unfortunately, my infant son cries more loudly and is harder to reason with and he usually wins the battle. I'm also struggling with how to work with Kayla's recently behavior issues (presumably more apparent or new due to baby Zachary's recent appearance on the scene). A few days ago, I was reading Corey's post over at Living and Loving Every Minute of It (click here to check it out - a little long, but worth it) and I believe she really hit the nail on the head. When our own needs are not met we are impatient and cranky and stray from our core parenting style and frankly from our own personalities in general. It seems like that is the story of my life lately. I'm thankful to Corey for her timely post and helping me get back on track. I guess in the end I keep coming back to this simple truth. God has put me in this situation and he will see me through. I Corinthians 10:13 says "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." How often I am tempted to lash out, to yell, to be impatient, to do what I shouldn't do in this new, two child parenting game. I have to remember that I am weak and nothing without God's help. I often think about how blessed I am to be a mother (twice now!) and I have to constantly focus on God's strength and not my own. With this focus, I can do anything!

2 comments:

Rich&Maya said...

I identify with your post and appreciate what Corey has to say on hers too. One thing that I think merits mention: Sometimes it is not possible to meet everyone's need. Parenthood becomes a lot like servanthood in these cases. Servanthood sometimes involves meeting needs even if ours are unmet. In those cases 1 Cor. 10:13 is still true as is 2 Cor. 12:8-10 and Philippians 2:1-11. And you will spend your whole life as a parent trying to get this right - sometimes it clicks and sometimes it doesn't. Check out my 3/19 blog entry and you'll see I still don't get it - but confession and forgiveness in the family goes a loooooong way. Grace & Peace to you - you're in my prayers.

RR

Corey~living and loving said...

oh my....how did I miss this. I am sorry. You are going in my reader right now.
thank you for the mention, and I am so very glad that my post touched your heart.
Parenting is so difficult. I am glad that most readers get what I am saying. We can't be perfect, but we also can't let that be a crutch or a reason to deviate from our parenting mission.
hugs to you.